The Prison Lady by Phyllis Taylor

Author:Phyllis Taylor
Language: eng
Format: epub
ISBN: 9781989555972
Publisher: Sutherland House Books
Published: 2023-09-06T00:00:00+00:00

CHAPTER TWENTY-ONE

Seniors who sizzle

WHEN JOHN AND I MET we were both in our sixties. He came to me on a winter’s breeze, warmed my heart, renewed my romantic faith and then went home. But one thing is clear, I never have to coax him under the covers or over the moon. And when we hug, he looks at me like I gave him a freaking gift.

It’s a myth that sexual intimacy has a cut-off date. Sex therapists agree that interest in, and the capacity for, sex continues into our eighties. Sure, it may decrease in intensity but not necessarily. As I write this chapter, it occurs to me that my adult children will be reading this and likely feeling rather ill. Read on kids, you’ll get there too.

By the time John moved to Toronto, we had rented a basement apartment and moved in together, but fussy folk questioned my sanity.

“Basement?” they bantered as if it were a socially forbidden class. One friend actually felt justified in ending our friendship, advising that my behaviour was completely reckless. God, I was tempted to tell her she was an alte kaker (crotchety old timer).

For the first time in my life, I truly didn’t care what others thought. We were happy in our basement for three years that flew by. Then we purchased a lovely condo, furnished it in Phyllis fashion and threw a party.

John is the love of my life, but it’s not always magic and sweet magnolias. We struggle too. We bicker, we banter and there’s drama. But the love is strong, and we have a remarkably safe space to work out our issues with respect and kindness. Most importantly, I trust him with my heart.

Just before moving into the condo, I planned John’s birthday dinner at our favourite spot, Peter’s Fine Dining. We love the romantic feel of an authentic eighties-style eatery, its waiters and its traditional fare. It takes cozy a notch higher and the food is divine.

After dinner, I noticed that John was a bit distracted. And when he started using his cell phone, it triggered my agitation. A moment later, my phone buzzed—a message from John:

“I’m on one knee . . .”

That evening, with a full complement of waiters and diners around us, a grown man got down on one knee with a tiny ring box, a heart of gold and a gorgeous smile. We became engaged as the crowd applauded. And we remain extraordinarily happy.

Do we plan to marry?

Yes. We want to applaud life and showcase love. Whether the lights are on or off, we recognize our oneness and interconnectedness. Although we may have stray greys, it’s not over till it’s over. Sexual fitness is important at any age, and we don’t outgrow our desire for sexual intimacy. It may not be the same as it was in our youth, but it can still be a ride you won’t want to miss.

What I found after several months of dating is that all men are not created equally, but they do have something in common.

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